My Fear Deconstruction Workbook is Available on BusyMindOasis!

Everyone has more than one fear. We have fears that either keep us up at night, or hold us back from accomplishing a task or goal, or both.

Whenever you do face a challenge that involves one of your fears, you want to be able to manage how you react or behave.

I thought I'd never get over a particular fear, until I learned by myself to deconstruct it and analyze it deeply.

Anyone can deconstruct a fear, even you. But you gotta ask the right questions. Questions NO ONE ELSE will ask you.

In my digital store BusyMindOasis, I'm offering one of my latest digital products, The Fear Deconstruction Workbook.

In this workbook, I share a personal story of my own to help you understand how to use The Fear Deconstruction Workbook. The workbook's questions that follow are based on questions I ask myself when I wanted to understand a certain fear I have in order to do something about it.

When I deconstruct a fear, I take it apart, examine/analyze it and figure out what the real fear is. And when it's something I can actually get over, then it's easier to handle in the future.

You can pick a fear you want to handle, deconstruct it so that you see the other fears that make up that fear, and use that knowledge to create a plan for yourself to handle your fear better the next time you face it. You can do this for many of your fears if not all of them.

You'll learn more about yourself in the process. You'll grow with each time you use this workbook to deconstruct your fears - fear of a particular insect, a certain situation, or other objects or conditions that cause you severe anxiety or panic. Examples of these could be cockroaches, booming thunder, or the fear of the dark. Even a complex fear like fear of success. Yes! Success can be scary too.

When I face my fear again, I know I'll be more prepared...

...and you can, too!

The questions inside my workbook PDF The Fear Deconstruction Workbook will help you focus on the cause(s) of your fear and acknowledge them so you can have room in your brain to process building a new resolve.

There are some fears that will take weeks or months to start managing. Some will take years. This workbook will help you so when it's time to face some of your biggest and most annoying fears, you'll know what to do in the future.

To get your PDF copy from my BusyMindOasis shop, click here.

Now if I can just take care of that fear of booming thunder…! :D

My Quiet, Private Way

I've been doing a lot of journaling and intense "brain dumping" in the last three weeks. And let me tell you, it's done a heck of a lot of good for me.

I realize I can't help everyone. I can't help every single person. It is impossible to please everyone, and I tend to be a people-pleaser. But here's what's going on.

Recently I've been reading more about my personality type. For around a year I've known I was an INFJ - Introvert, INtuition, Feeling, Judgment. (Judgment would be more about self-judgment in this case.) And it's true I have trouble adjusting to major changes or suddenly stressful situations.

So I've decided to reduce my stress by easing up on things.

I am learning new skills so I can create my products and work more independently and not need to depend on anyone else. I am learning how to use certain software and utilize techniques to facilitate independent creative work. I am not going to depend on someone else's schedule or agenda because I can do with less conflict.

Already I have mentioned I'm gearing up to be an authorpreneur. My workaholic tendencies can sometimes get the better of me, but I'd rather have that than a boss. I'm not accepting any client work now, not for at least another long while. When I know better what I can do, I can consider working for others, but I otherwise have only done excellent audio transcription as a freelancer and I'd now charge more for it than before, because my time is very valuable.

I am happier when I do entrepreneurial tasks that are congruent to who I am, what I like and what energizes me. So if I want to make journal books too, then I'll do that. I can still help more people without feeling like I'm worthless just because I don't do "real" work or have a "conventional" job. I will be helping others but in my more private, quiet way.

I apologize if this blog post feels somewhat of a mess. But I felt I had to update you and my other readers about what's going on, and it's not even everything. I'm taking a bit of time off to figure some things out and write some ideas out. It's very necessary... and right now I shouldn't deny myself this important period of healing and reflection.

Dear Journal vs. Dear Jane vs. [BLANK]

It's just a short post for today. JOURNAL NAMES!

We all have a favorite way to greet our journal at the beginning of every entry.

But what are the benefits of addressing a book we are writing in by name or by “Journal?”

Anne Frank named her diary “Kitty.”  She personified her diary with a [pet] name so it can be easy to write into it as if speaking to a silent friend.

I’ve given my old diaries names too… Xi, and Sairah, to name a couple.

I’ve even greeted my diaries with made-up words for “hello”!

The trend of greeting a journal with a “Dear Journal” or “Dear Jane/Jack” varies from person to person. It depends on what the journal is for, or how it helps the journal writer get in the mindset of writing—communicating to the self. One could even address the journal by their own name, if that helps.

In my Comfort Journal I begin by writing the date, day and time on the right-hand side, then underneath I begin on the left-hand side, “Dear Journal.”

And my big 200-sheet  notebook?  I do that differently. I still date, day and time it, but I do not begin with a “Dear Journal” or “Dear Jane.”  I just simply begin. Perhaps it’s because I use this notebook as a writing dump, a place to just pour out stuff when my head overflows with thoughts and words. For this particular notebook there is no need to address it. But that’s just how I do that one.

QUESTION:

What do you think of journal names? Leave your response in the comments.